Do you feel a little relief when you read those words? I am so glad that you found me because I understand what it is like to try hard and not get what you want. The good news is that I can help you create more satisfaction in your life and relationships without trying harder.
- Do you worry about getting it right?
- Are you afraid that no one is really there for you?
- Are you sick and tired of doing what everyone else wants you to do?
- Do you hurt because you try really hard and it is never good enough?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then I would like to help because it does not have to be like this.
You may feel sometimes that if you just do what you should and get it right, then you will be happy. If you work harder, someone will finally get it right for you, or maybe you will feel that you matter.
It is really painful to be trying so hard and yet not be happy. I bet that sometimes you think “if I were just smart enough, successful enough, thin enough, wealthy enough, brave enough, attractive enough, or loved enough, then I would be OK and I would not have this hole inside.”
It may be that despite all your best efforts, you are not happy. You may not even know what it is that you want. This is often true even when others tell you that you have a great life or that you are a wonderful person.
You are not alone in feeling this way.
Frustration, anxiety, fear and depression come from the fact that the answers frequently do not come in the way that we are told or taught that they do. We think that the answers will come if we just “try harder.” Getting it right and being happy in any area of your life — love, work, friends, family, spirit — is not about trying harder!
At this point, finding solutions starts with just being willing to believe that there is another way.
Feeling better is about learning to trust yourself and having the freedom to listen and do what is right for you. This will improve all your relationships — with yourself, your couple, your family, your friends, and your colleagues.
If you want to create something different for yourself, it can be helpful to get some input and a different perspective from a counselor. I do not have an agenda for you in counseling. My therapeutic insight, skills, and strategies work for your growth. The truth is that you do not have to do it all in order to be happy. Whether it is in your personal relationships or in your career, you can get more of what you want at any point in your life — it is not too late!
I work with people who suspect that it is not enough to do the right thing for everyone else and who are unhappy with some or all of their lives. If your life is just not working for you, I offer hope and help when you are tired of trying harder and want more from your relationships. I have the support and tools that enable you to know that you are enough. You can live in a way that feels wonderful to you. You simply need to be willing to consider that there is another way to be and to know that you do not have to find your way alone. I would love to help you.
Do not wait one more day!
Please call me at 949.922.7800 or use my Contact page. I look forward to speaking with you.